Blame it on the rain

We all look forward to being loved and respected. Many people are afraid of losing face. Generally, when a person makes a mistake, he would look around to find a scapegoat to point the finger at. This is the start of a war. We should always remember that when we point one finger at a person, the other four fingers are pointing at ourselves.

A man asked his father-in-law, "Many people praised you for a successful marriage. Could you please share with me your secret?" The father-in-law answered in a smile, "Never criticize your wife for her shortcomings or when she does something wrong. Always bear in mind that because of her shortcomings and weaknesses, she could not find a better husband than you."

It's never good to blame our partner for the wrong things that happened , instead blame it on the rain, accept the outcome, and focus on the positive side. Talking it over will always help fixed the problem.

The Interviewer

One February of 2007, a school is in time to hire new preschool teachers for the next school year. Those who have applied were asked to go to the board and deliver any topic to kindergarten students.

An aspiring teacher started to introduce herself and was discussing a subject. While, everyone were listening and school officials were asking some questions, a kindergarten boy raised his hand and asked, Can you please tell us a story?

The teacher was disturbed and felt uneasy and replied the boy, Yes sure, I will tell everyone a story but maybe later. When she speaks up again she continues to tell something about herself and so the boy stands up again and said…“Teacher that is not a story”, we want a children’s story with a moral lesson. Ooh…. the Principal and some staffs of the school were surprised of what the boy have said to the teacher.

Can you guess what had happened?, Yes dear, poor aspiring teacher she was not able to deliver even a simple and short children’s story to the students. She was not prepared and so the member of the screening panel have decided not to hire her. The most tough of all the interview questions was remained unaswered, and that is the one that came from a boy. (he-he).

Lesson Update: Polite Expression

My five-year-old son, likes to smile and strike conversation with everyone he meets. It was one Sunday afternoon after we’ve got our grocery stuffs we ride a taxi. In our way home he asked me what is “Maligaya” I answered back it means “Happy”. When we have reached our house and as I pay our fare and pocketed my change, my son leaned forward to the driver. He smiled and said “ Thank you, Sir” . There was no reply.

Thinking he hadn’t been heard, he repeated his polite expression but again the driver was in silence. As I pulled him away, he said to me “ We don’t have to ride anymore here in “Maligaya Taxi”, you know the driver is not happy to have us as his passengers. He didn’t smile and say “You’re Welcome” What is his problem Mom?

At times, children are more likely educated with these polite expressions than adults. Don’t you think so?

What you said will matter...

A friend and her millionaire husband visited their construction site. A worker who wore a helmet saw her and shouted,"Hi, Emily! Remember me? We used to date in the secondary school." On the way home, her millionaire husband teased her, "Luckily you married me.Otherwise you will be the wife of a construction worker." She answered ,"You should appreciate that you married me. Otherwise, he will be the millionaire and not you."

Frequently exchanging these remarks plants the seed for a bad relationship. It's like a broken egg - cannot be reversed.

There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "A speech will either prosper or ruin a nation." Many relationships break off because of wrong speech. When a couple is too close with each other,we always forget mutual respect and courtesy. We may say anything without considering if it would hurt the other party.

What is the First Aid?

Childhood injuries are inevitable. Are we prepared for these and provide the First Aid before having your child seen by a doctor?

Most common injuries are minor cuts and scrapes, severe bleeding or deep cuts, nosebleeds, poisoning, and burns.

Children are very curious in everything they see, hear, smell, taste and feel or touch. They want to explore all things around them not knowing that some of those are dangerous on their body senses.

I remember my friend story when her daughter holds a hot iron inside their room. Her daughter is crying in pain and she had no idea why she is crying and so she asked the yaya and have known that her daughter holds the hot iron that she puts in the corner of the room after she has ironed some of the clothes.

They were all in panicked and were advised by his husband to immediately wash it with running water and so her child was temporary relieved but still you can see on her face the pain. Good thing, on that day was her daughter’s scheduled visit to her Pediatrician and so the mother narrated the incident and asked the Doctor what is the first aid for burns. The child Pediatrician immediately asked her who left the hot iron in the corner of the room. The Mom replied, me Doctor. The Doctor said, well the First Aid is you, then the yaya and whoever is around in the house to look after your daughter. After this simple sermon or advice from the child’s Pediatrician they all laughed and accepted the fact that they are all should be blamed of what had happened.

With this, the Doctor reminded her that the First Aid for minor burn is to immediately flush the area with cold running water for several minutes.

We, parents should be more cautious. Kids are growing fast and the more that they get curious of everything they see around and they would want to explore these immediately. It is now our responsibility to double check harmful stuffs we put in our house. We have to educate our children that some stuff is dangerous to touch, see, hear, smell and taste.

Is it 30 or 31 days?

My significant other would always asked me Darling, how many days do we have this month is it 30 or 31 days? I would then replied him wait Darling will check it in the calendar (he-he.) I also can’t remember the number of days in a month.

Until one day, as I was checking my old files during my college days I found and read of the information that would give me an answered immediately to my better half common inquiry. I memorized it and from then on, I can answer him immediately without checking the calendar if the month has 30 or 31 days. He was amazed as I was able to give him the information and have said WOW! Darling, how did you know that? Thank you my Alzheimer’s was cured because of that. (l.o.l)

So, for the information of everyone here it is,

30 days hath September, April, June and November. All the rest have 31 days except February which hath but 28 in fine, till leap year gives it 29.

Sometimes simple information like this can give humor to a couple’s relationship. So, to all mothers out there let us show to our significant other that we are not only good in our common domestic duties but also very smart in cases like this.

i do blog

In my blog hopping I have come across this blog, written by a 24-year old Indonesian whose passion evolves around his computer and his work. i.do.blog is about the writer being expert in his field being a web programmer and course instructor. And is currently teaching Internet Marketing. He is also available for private class sessions.

He had this interesting post about “How to search on Google..” I thought then that you just simply write the terms or keywords you want to search on at Google. But there’s actually tips on how to optimize the search result on Google. So you’ll get exactly what u want. Like, using (-) for each word that you want to avoid [some] words on your search result. Example: type ‘BMW 318i -red’ then all the search result wont contained ‘red’ word. Another one is using ‘filetype:’ to find information based on a file type. Example, if u want to search an information about ‘ridho’ and u want all the result is a pdf document, then u should type ‘+ridho filetype:pdf’.

There are a lot more things you’ll find in his blog, check i.do.blog and see for yourself!

Change for the better

Many relationships fail because one party tries to overpower another,or demands too much. People in love tend to think that love will conquer all and their spouses will change the bad habits after marriage. Actually, this is not the case. There is a Chinese saying which carries the meaning that "It is easier to reshape a mountain or a river than a person's character."

It is not easy to change. Thus, having high expectation on changing the spouse character will cause disappointment and unpleasantness. It would be less painful to change ourselves and lower our expectations..

My Wish List.....

As the song goes… When you wish upon a star makes no difference who you are. Anything your heart desires will come to you.

Have listed part 1 of my wish list. I know some of these are so crazy and still very impossible to fulfill it now but I believe fate is kind and in God’s time it will surely brings sweet fulfillment of my wishes.

I wish to…

• meet Daniel Steel my favorite romance novelist and ask all copies of her novels (of course first to my lists are Remembrance, To Love Again, and Kaleidoscope)


• meet Jo Girard- (top car salesman in the world).I love his “Ferris wheel”.


• own a fun playhouse business ( so that my son will not go to the mall and pay a per hour basis )


• have our second honeymoon in Santorini, Greece ( have watch “For the First time” love the scenic view, great for honeymoon destination.


• go back to Sta. Mesa Manila particularly in Bacood (where I grew up) and meet old friends


• go to the roof of our old house again in Manila and eat “Kropeck” with spicy vinegar plus Bayabas for constipation he-he…


• play again “Tansan”(softdrink cap) , “Text” cards and “Rubber band” with my uncles.


• join house to house Christmas Caroling ( 100 days more before Christmas)


• be a Chef and cook my favorite comfort food, mashed potatoes (he-he)


• meet my idol Chef Rob of “Chef to Go” ( He’s so cute)


• have a new house on top of a hill … maybe in Chocolate Hills in Bohol (he-he)


• have my own car ( Porsche ?) ooh… wishing only.


• meet my classmates in Grade School and High School again. ( most especially my crush -our President in the class)


• have a fine dining restaurant and learn the etiquette in fine dining.


• bring my son in Disneyland ( Hongkong will do since there’s no visa )


• get to have a Carribean tour with my Family. The ship is Royal Carribean ,my brother is working here.


• learn to sing “ I am your Brother , Your Best friend Forever” American Idol (lol)


• meet J. Lo, and Angelina Jolie


• win in a game show “ Deal or No Deal”


• learn to bake my favorite blue berry cheese cake.


• get the old recipe of Goldilocks sans rival (my Dad's “pasalubong” when am still small)


• eat again Halo-Halo with my Dad in Escolta


• own a property like a farm lot so I can plant my favorite fruits and vegetables and build a nipa hut. For Retirement purposes (he-he)


• eat kiwi fruit and try dragon fruit shake.
  

On Part 2 ... More wish lists to come. There's no harm in wishing . Anybody can make a wish (he-he)

Happy Wishing to all..

Trust

Trust is a very important factor for all relationships especially for married couples. When trust is broken, it is the end of the relationship. Lack of trust leads to suspicion, suspicion generates anger, anger causes enmity and enmity may result in separation.

One day a taxi operator received a phone call. She answered, "Holiday Taxi" There was silence. She repeated, "Holiday Taxi" There was still no answer. When she was going to cut off the line, she heard a lady's voice, "Oh, so this is Holiday Taxi. Sorry, I got the number from my Husband's pocket but I do not know whose number it is."

Without mutual trust, just imagine what will happen to the couple if the taxi operator answered with just "hello" instead of "Holiday Taxi".

Patience

This is a true story which happened in the States. A man came out of his home to admire his new truck. To his puzzlement, his three-year-old son was happily hammering dents into the shiny paint of the truck. The man ran to his son, knocked him away, hammered the little boy's hands into pulp as punishment. When the father calmed down, he rushed his son to the hospital.

Although the doctor tried desperately to save the crushed bones, he finally had to amputate the fingers from both the boy's hands. When the boy woke up from the surgery & saw his bandaged stubs, he innocently said, " Daddy,I'm sorry about your truck." Then he asked, "but when are my fingers going to grow back?" The father went home & committed suicide. Think about this story the next time someone steps on your feet or u wish to take revenge.

Think first before u lose your patience with someone u love. Trucks can be repaired.. Broken bones & hurt feelings often can't. Too often we fail to recognize the difference between the person and the performance. We forget that forgiveness is greater than revenge.

People make mistakes. We are allowed to make mistakes. But the actions we take while in a rage will haunt us forever.

Force Feeding

My child is such a picky eater that we sometimes resort to force-feeding. Is there a better way to make our child eat? Is there an appetite stimulant to make a child gain weight?

Force feeding method might be effective for a while, but it will not make our child healthy eater in the long run. An appetite stimulant should be recommended by our child's pediatrician, who can assess our child's actual need for it. Here are some recommended tips by an expert Mom:

• Prepare creative recipes. Mealtime can be a source of fun too! With a syrup or milk, put a happy face (smiley) on your hotcakes, topped with a slice of fruit. There are recipe books that specialize in this .
• Make sure our child rested before they eat. Tiredness can depress one's appetite.
• Keep toys away while they eat.
• Discourage snacking just before mealtime.
• Be a good example. A picky parent sends the wrong signals to the child.
• Create a friendly atmosphere. Avoid discussing negative matters or, having arguments at the dinner table.

Lets avoid power struggles which tend to promote pickiness. Instead, decide what food to offer and when. Let our child decide how much to eat.

A Touch of Love

Here’s a very touching poem that I received from a friend in email. Every parent can surely relate in every word written here.

Time goes so fast so let’s treasure every moment of being with our kids. We will surely miss all their "FIRST"..... the innocent smile, the laughter that sounds just like sweet music to our hears, the first step of walk that they are very dependent of holding our hands so tightly and afraid to fall and can't rise back again, and hearing the first word that they uttered be it "Dada", "Papa" or "Mama", "Mom", "Dad" made us so proud.

These are worth remembering, for One day, a Man or a Woman is in front of you leaving you for a while and be having a Family.

A TOUCH OF LOVE

You were six months old and full of fun,With a blink of my eye, you were suddenly one.
There were so many things we were going to do,but I turned my head and you turned two.
At two, you were very dependent on me,but independence took over when you turned three.
Your third birthday; another year I tried to ignore,but when I lit the candles, there weren't three, but four.
Four was the year that you really strives.Why, look at you now, you're already five.
Now you are ready for books and for rules.This is the year you go to school.

The big day came, you were anxious to go.
We walked to the bus going oh, so slow. As you climbed aboard and waved good-bye, I felt a lump in my throat and tears stung my eyes.

Time goes so fast it's hard to believe that just yesterday you were home here with me.
And tomorrow when the bus brings you home and you jump to the ground you'll be wearing your cap and graduation gown.
So I'm holding to these moments as hard as I can,because the next time I look, I'll be seeing a man
(Author unknown)

Goodbye lines....

“ If I would love a man, half as wise, half as good as you are” (woman)
“ Why set for half, If you could have it whole” (man)
“ Could I? (woman)

Oh! These goodbye lines strikes to the deepest part of my heart when my former board mate who was working as a telephone operator had confided to me her problem on how to say goodbye to someone you shared a love with for more than two years. I told her that it’s really hard to say goodbye to someone who have brought so much love, joy and fulfillment in your relationship. I asked her why? Are you not in love with him anymore or maybe the other way around. She cried and told me that we’re still both in love with each other but the relationship was wrong since the very first time we’ve met. I said why? She then admitted to me that his boyfriend is married and she has finally decided to end up the relationship even how painful it is and how much she loves the guy.

Her lines above were the last lines of goodbyes and let go of that which she once held.

Blog Nation

In only a few short years, Blogging has become a vital part of many people around the world. According to a survey in US I read, here are some of the highlights:

80% of Americans know what a blog is, 50% regularly visit blogs, and 8% publish their own blog. The survey also revealed that more women than men are bloggers, with 20% of American women who have visited blogs having their own versus 14 % of men.

When asked about the types of information they get from blogs, 65% said they get opinions, while 39% get news and 38% get entertainment. About one in three people read gossip on blog websites while only 2% use blogs to cach upon news about family and friends.

Loyalty to specific blogs is also fairly strong with 46% of blog readers saying that they visit the same blogs regularly versus 54% who instead usually surf for new and different ones.

Awareness blogs strongly correlates to age, with younger people being much more active. Nearly 90% of those aged 25 to 34 know what a blog is, compared to just 65% of those aged 65 and over. Similarly, 78% of those aged 18 to 24 who are aware of blogs say they have visited a blog, compared to only 45% of older Americans.

As blogs have gained in popularity, so has the frequency with which they’re read. Though the majority of blog readers (39%) view them less than once a month, another 28% visit them monthly, 15% visit them daily and 5% read them several times a day.

Political and journalistic (or pseudo journalistic) blogs have been in the spotlight recently, but study found that 37% of bloggers cite "My Life and Experiences" as what they blog about, while only 11% cited public issues as typical topics.

Also, 60% of bloggers are white, while remaining are of different races, according to the data

And 55% of bloggers write under a pseudonym, thats a key difference between bloggers and most journalists.

Potty Training

Does your child shows signs of easily being disturbed and upset when his diaper is wet? Hiding at the back of the door and feeling very uneasy and shows in his actions, postures, gestures or facial expression that he wanted not to be disturbed and would like to go on a comfort place like, bathroom ? If yes, then these are some of the signs for you to start to potty or toilet train your child.

When my son shows these signs, I must admit at first I didn't feel so relax thinking how to start to educate him on his experience in acquiring a skill like this. When he has started to walk and has reached the age of 1 year and 6 months, I started to introduce colorful potty seats. During those times, we will go to the mall and bring him with us. Before buying our personal stuffs we would get first of his stuffs at the toddlers section. I will show him colorful potty seats and let him seat on it just like sitting on an ordinary comfy chair. I bought one for him and upon reaching in our house I sat on the potty seat and demonstrate how relaxing to sit on. I got some children's books to read. After awhile, he's pulling me to get off and he wants to sits on it and so I gave him some educational toys too. He then started to imitates my actions and sits on the potty while looking at the big and colorful pictures in the book and then playing with his toys.

My husband and I, have learned to have tons of patience as we go through this toilet training. We praised our son whenever he does right and reminds him always about using the potty. When he reaches the age of two, to our surprised we saw him inside the comfort room and sitting in his throne like a prince (lol) . He will call me for an assistance to hold him for he's still a little bit afraid that he might fall down.

To all Moms and Dad .....Be the Best Coach to your Child and The # 1 Super Fan . Always be there to support and guide them as they passed through this kind of experience.

Green Tea and Weight Loss

Months after pregnancy, my weight did not go back to normal instead I was getting heavier and bigger. It was then I followed a friend's advise of not buying a new clothes to fit my new figure rather use the old ones to help me remind that I have to loose weight or else I have nothing to wear in my closet. That helps. Also what really helps me in loosing weight is mine being a green tea drinker.

Study after study has proven the health benefits of green tea, including fighting heart disease, cancer and other diseases. Now a new study says that drinking green tea may also help fight fat! Researchers say that substances found in green tea known as catechins may spur weight loss by prompting the body to burn calories and by reducing body fat.

Catechins are a type of polyphenols, plan-based substances that have been shown to have antioxidant, anticancer and antiviral properties. New research findings, however, show that catechins may also help burn calories, cut low-density Lipoprotein (LDL) cholesterol and slightly trim body fat.

The freshest and best-quality tea is said to be brewed from whole, loose leaves rather from tea bags. Usual tea to water ratio is about 1/2 teaspoon of loose leaves per six eight ounces of water.

It has been said that to get the maximum benefits of green tea, drink at least four cups a day.

My Love

I once met you.....
Then I felt something I can't deny.
My heart leaping with joy and happiness
and all of a sudden I know you were mine.
I am happy whenever I see you each day.
You and I may not be the perfect pair.
The kind most people dreamed themselves to be....
Just as long as you and I are both aware that life is what we make it to be...
Then we won't care what others have to say. Our love will guide us and show the way.
There could be no one for me but you.
You're the best thing that ever happened to me.