A child and pregnancy take a lot out of a marriage: time, energy and attention, for starters. And I know when the kids get older, when they join sports or other activities and make friends of their own, they demand even more time, energy and attention. Eventually, between jobs and carpooling and household chores, the person we end up having the least amount of time for is our spouse.Most days now, I am lucky to have enough energy to give my husband a kiss goodnight. That romp between the sheets that he is begging for is out of the question. I told him that when I'm not so tired, or maybe sometime over the weekend would be good. He rolls over, frustrated, and I stare into the darkness, exhausted and wondering if I'll ever be in the mood again. Oftentimes, when sex does happen, it feels more like a chore than an act of pleasure.
It says that a sexless marriage, even if its is temporary, can cause a sense of disconnectedness between a wife and husband. I know it is important part of the glue that keeps parents or married couples connected.
I hope this is just happening now because I'm pregnant and caring for a toddler, maybe things will change later on say after giving birth? that's 5 more months to go! Can my husband wait that long?? Hopefully...
